A friend reached out this a.m. after reading St Therese’s prayer. She has lost both her parents in the last few months. We chatted a bit about grief and asking for strength. She commented she wasn’t sure who she was talking to in her head, but that traditional beliefs did not have a presence in her life right now.
Completely understandable, we don’t feel very spirited in the wilderness.
It got me to thinking…
Faith. Does it matter what you are having faith in, or just that you are choosing to believe?
And which feels better right now– to project hope into a future positive possibility or to fear the worst?
Faith is seeing possibilities, not just problems. (What is a problem solver anyway? I think it’s just someone that believes in possible solutions.)Fred Buechner
I used the below quote in a first blog I did when I moved west years ago, for a sabbatical of sorts with my family. So many people had approached me about what we were doing, and so to the extent it was informative, and productive, I wanted to write a bit about it.
“My story is important not because it is mine, God knows, but because if I tell it anything like right, the chances are you will recognize that in many ways it is also yours.”Fred Buechner
As a writer, and lover of the memoir and personal reflection genre I was conflicted. Bragging is antithetical to what I was interested in doing. At the time, I did recognize that there’s a soft touch required in connecting our stories to others, rather than imposing them upon others. Facebook was barely a thing, in a way thank God, so it was before the days of social posturing, I mean social media. But even then, a sensitive tone and delicate touch was important. The whole point is to help, not hurt.
If you’re awake and interested in reading things like this, you must know of Brene Brown. Researcher, writer, social worker extraordinaire. She speaks on the power of vulnerability. Here’s what vulnerability is- it’s being honest with yourself, and then honest with another, so honestly, you can use your life and experience as an offering, just as Buechner does. Vulnerability is how we connect. Sharing our most vulnerable experiences can save lives.
A consideration: Don’t hold back, in an effort to protect your image and pride. Your parents and grandparents may have called it airing their dirty laundry. Not so much; they were conditioning you to protect the family name. (Whatever that means.) Trust me- I was bottle fed on that formula.
I believe when we hold back, we render our own life experience useless, and deprive others of insights and experiences that can help them navigate their own wild and precious life.
Have you had that experience of hearing from another a story that helps you shape your own? Where and when have you really been listening when the universe gave you information you needed to hear? Maybe even information that saved a life. Sharing vulnerabilities is remarkable. If you let it be.
A-Muse from Covid quarantine creative daze:
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