“Don’t go chasing’ waterfalls. Please stick to the rivers and the lakes that you’re used to.”


Motherhood: the biggest heart warming blessing of one’s life, ever! And, heartache extraordinaire. What’s the saying? Having a child is like having your heart living outside your body. Or, if you have been given the gift of loving and supervising boys, one might say their heart is not just living outside their body, but running across the highway-frogger-style, leaping off balconies (without looking) and diving head first into murky rocky waters.

Today I leave a 19 year old and a 20 year old. I know I am not alone; this is a week of letting go, after several unexpected months of squeezing these young people in tight. Back to school; back to their lives, Covid-style: uncertainty, masks and all.

Thankful for the time together- challenges, chores, communion, celebration, frustration, illness, recovery and all. Today, for me, is a day of gratitude, appreciation, sentimentality, love, sadness, and the reminder that these little pieces of my heart have journeys of their own to embark on.

Much learned from these young people who blessed us with their messy lives for an unlikely 5 month sabbatical.

Happy trails. Be safe. Stay the course.

(And please stick to the rivers and the lakes that you’re used to!)

listen here if link doesn’t work. moving music:

Don’t go chasing waterfalls by Bette Midler.

This Post Has 3 Comments

  1. Catherine

    Just great E! Always loved this song. Xo

  2. Jen Pen

    That waterfall pic was a maz ing.
    (Did you get a picture of the person?🙃)
    I’ve decided to apply this quote to my love of Lake Michigan – or any MOVING body of water that waves back to me.
    Hugs about the letting go moment E.

  3. Julie

    Elinor, Your message speaks volumes to the vulnerable state we find ourselves in when letting go, particularly of young impulsive untethered men. That heart-wrenching feeling surfaced all too often in unimaginable ways as my kids navigated adolescence…and it resurfaces as they explore young adulthood. I find peace in knowing I did my part — my best — to instill all I could to guide them toward healthy paths, healthy choices. Each time we part I’m left hoping they uncover more “rivers and lakes” than “waterfalls.” And until we reunite, breathwork seems to be the best antidote to turn heartache into trust and faith. May we all be well through the valleys ahead. And may rivers and lakes prevail. Grateful for hope! Encouraged to breathe in familiar lakes in the days ahead. Thanks for the insight! Looking forward to tomorrow’s post…

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