Courage is not the absence of fear. It’s being in the midst of fear, and dealing with it. But how? In his book Radical Grace, Franciscan Priest Richard Rohr shares;

I am just like you. My immediate response to most situations is with reactions of attachment, defensiveness, judgment, control, and analysis. I am better at calculating than contemplating.

Let’s admit that we all start there. The False Self seems to have the “first gaze” at almost everything.

The first gaze is seldom compassionate. It is too busy weighing and feeling itself: “How will this affect me?” or “How can I get back in control of this situation?” This leads us to an implosion, a self-preoccupation that cannot enter into communion with the other or the moment. In other words, we first feel our feelings before we can relate to the situation and emotion of the other. Only after God has taught us how to live “undefended,” can we immediately stand with and for the other, and in the present moment. It takes lots of practice.

Boy, does it ever. A practice of return, they call it. I am practicing letting the persistent waves of frustration and fear wash over, as quickly as they arise in these scary-for-all, unchartered waters we’ve all been thrown into. And trying to return to a place of love, compassion, and forgiveness. Every flippin’ hour. Join Me in Praying…

For Radical Grace,

… All These Days Looonngg,


This Post Has 6 Comments

  1. Marina Carney Puryear

    Perfect! Xo

  2. Jennifer Randolph

    Elinor, this is exactly the message I needed this morning. You have a knack for hitting the nail on the head. Thank you for continuing to inspire. Wishing you well. JP

  3. Catherine

    Great for today. Xx

  4. Johnna Deering

    Amen to this! Thx

  5. Ciara

    Amen. Thank you Elinor. This too shall pass.

  6. Jen Pen

    This too shall pass.

    My daughter asked me once if that was my favorite scripture verse.

    It was funny then.

    The answer now yes.

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